3 Ways to Increase Self-Esteem and Independence

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Feeling good about yourself is empowering so knowing these 3 ways to increase self-esteem and independence will be of value to those lacking in self-confidence.

Generally, people think of self-esteem more in terms of how it relates to happiness. But it also relates to independence. (Of course, in actual fact, self-esteem is connected to lots of things in one’s life 🙂 )

Raising Self-Esteem Boosts Your Confidence

All of the ways to increase self-esteem and independence contribute to better living. Raising self-esteem contributes to your independence by boosting your confidence. Just makes common sense, doesn’t it? 🙂 And confidence makes doing things on your own easier because, well, you’re confident you can do it (see what I mean about inter-related?) 😉

Confidence contributes to your ability to figure out all the myriad things that need figuring out in life. It also makes it easier to handle all the decisions that need to be made in day to day living.

Raising Self-Esteem Raises Self-Worth

As you learn to value yourself more, you also start to realize that you are worthy of good things. You’ll find yourself settling less and less and truly going after what it is you want in life. You will be less prone to let others control you, treat you poorly, or take advantage of you.

Higher Self-Esteem Helps You Maintain Your Independence

Understanding that you are deserving of good things bolsters your independence as it prompts you to seek out situations and people and things that are pleasing to you…again, it’s all connected 🙂

When you have higher self-esteem and the confidence that comes with valuing yourself, each step you take towards independence builds on the others and soon you are a full-fledged independent person, not limited by insecurities, out there “adulting” with the best of them!

So, raising your self-esteem is an important goal for those who want to live with confidence and freedom–which is most of us!

How to Raise Your Self-Esteem

Understanding what good self-esteem can do for you, the question is, how do I improve or raise my self-esteem? The following are great starter practices to turn into a routine that will boost your self-esteem in no time:

Affirm Your Worth

Off and on throughout your day, give yourself a pep talk in the mirror. Look yourself in the eye and talk to yourself as you would to a friend who needs encouragement. Remind yourself that you are strong, worthy, and valuable. You’re a unique person with great talent and gifts to offer to the world.

Or maybe try this video as you drift off to sleep:

Refuse to Settle

You (as does everyone) deserve nothing but the best in life. Each time you choose to NOT settle, it reinforces your ideas of self-esteem and self-worth–which in turn makes it easier to not settle moving forward.

Don’t overwhelm yourself–look for one instance per day to not settle–maybe ask for a replacement for a badly prepared dish at a restaurant, or for your co-worker to return your nice pen. Be patient with yourself. Baby steps keep moving your forward. 🙂

Stick to Your Guns

AKA persistence. Changing how you feel about yourself most likely will require sustained effort and a bit of time. So be patient and don’t try to do too much all at once (ala Mini-Habits) 🙂 Slow and steady and all that…and you will get there!

Raising your self-esteem will have a positive effect on every aspect of your life–in particular your confidence level and subsequently your independence. So, what are you waiting for? Get started today.


This mug from my shop will serve as a nice daily reminder of the need for daily effort. 🙂

Happiness and self-esteem go hand in hand. Consider taking the 30 Days to a Happier Life Mini-Course. Fill your cup with HAPPY! 🙂

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I am a retired RN–stayed home after my second child was born, having worked for 10 years. I am in my mid-50s now, and I enjoy blogging, designing mugs and more and spreading a bit of positivity in the world.

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